2023年读过的书

2023年读过的书:
1) 遇见你真好- 白峻也
2) Mistakes Were Made (but not by me) why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts- Carol Travis, Elliot Aronson❤
3) A Girl’s Best Friend- Lindsey Kelk
4) Counselling for Toads- A Psychological Adventure- Robert de Board
5) Nip n’ Tuck- Kathy Lette
6) Musicophilia- Oliver Sacks ❤
7) To Kill A MockingBird- Harper Lee❤
8) Twas the night shift before christmas- Adam Kay
9) The Complete Guide to Your Emotions and Your Health- Emrika Padus (executive editor)
10) Selfish, shallow, and self-absorbed- Meghan Daum (editor)
11) The Man Who Couldn’t Stop- David Adam
12) The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog- Bruce Perry, Maia Szalavitz❤
13) The Sun and Her Flowers- Rupi Kaur
14) The Introvert’s Way- Living A Quiet Life in a Noisy World- Sophia Dembling❤
15) 钝感力- 渡边淳一著；李迎跃译
16) 人间值得- 中村恒子，奥田弘美著；范宏涛译❤
17) What you are Looking For is in the Library- Michiko Aoyoma; translated by Alison Watts❤
18) 羞辱创伤- 周慕姿❤
19) Freckles- Cecelia Ahern❤
20) The Burnout- Sophie Kinsella
21) Atomic habit- James Clear
22) Educated- Tara Westover❤
23) The Psychology of Money- Morgan Housel❤
24) Surrounded by idiots- Thomas Erikson
25) 过度努力——每个过度，都是伤的证明- 周慕姿
26) 咖啡未冷前——川口俊和著，弭铁娟译❤
27) Tiny Moons- a year of eating in Shanghai- Nina Mingya Powles
28) 情绪勒索：那些在伴侣、亲子、职场间，最让人窒息的相处- 周慕姿
29) The slight edge- Jeff Olson
30) I want to die but I want to eat tteokbokki- Baek Sehee, translated by Anton Hur❤
31) Toxic parents- overcoming their hurtful legally and reclaiming your life- Susan Forward with Craig Buck (60% read)
32) Born For Love- Maia Szalavitz, Bruce Perry❤

和往年不同，今年读了很多‘有用’的书。尤其是在买了Kindle以后，看了很多主流的畅销书，感想是畅销书果然有畅销的理由。

上半年读的印象深刻的书是一起工作的精神科医生随口推荐的<Musicophila>和<To Kill a MockingBird>。前者让我对我们工作上遇见的其中一个病例有更深刻的理解和广阔的思考角度，后者让我惊艳一个故事可以带来的冲击和价值。

<The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog>和<Born for Love>是一个child psychiatrist和科学新闻人合写的书。这两本书让我明白尤其从婴儿时期开始的childhood trauma的深远影响，一个人的resilience也和童年经历有关。如果你不曾经历某些不好的过去，会对于某些人现在的行为感到不解甚至厌烦；或者鄙夷地评论某些人的抗压力好低/”就这点小事而已哦，那你想想贫穷国家的孩子不是更糟糕”。我也曾经对无数次无礼的病人感到不解，但一起工作的精神科医生提醒了我，那位病人从成长时期到现在有过很多次trauma，比如这几年被陌生人性侵几次的经历。你不曾经历于是无法想象，但我们都该练习同理，练习给别人和自己一点温柔。你的轻而易举，或许是别人的恐惧或曾经的遍体鳞伤。

相比这两本书情况严重的案例和科学性的解释，周慕姿的《羞辱创伤》、《过度努力》、《情绪勒索》，以心理师的角度更生活化地书写成人对于童年创伤可能会有的影响和反应。这些并不是要怪罪过去，而是确认问题的根源，察觉有些事情会这样并不是你的错，和这样的你，已经很棒了。

另外治愈性的书有《人间值得》，治愈的小说有< What you are Looking For is in the Library>和<咖啡未冷前>。最后有点沉重但沉重得应该的自传小说有<Educated>，中文版翻译得很好，你当像鸟飞往你的山。

“The past was a ghost, insubstantial, unaffecting. Only the future had weight.”

“Until that moment she had always been there. No matter how much I appeared to have changed- how illustrious my education, how altered my appearance- I was still her.”

“That night I called on her and she didn’t answer. She left me. She stayed in the mirror. The decision I made after that moment was not the ones she would have made. They were the choices of a changed person, a new self.

You could call this selfhood many things. Transformation. Metamorphosis. Falsity. Betrayal.

I call it an education.”

愿你也可以在书里看见更大的世界，懂得多一点温柔。