2023上半年读过的书

1st half of 2023:

1) 遇见你真好- 白峻也

2) Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)  why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts-  Carol Travis, Elliot Aronson ❤

4) A Girl’s Best Friend- Lindsey Kelk

5) Counselling for Toads- A Psychological Adventure- Robert de Board

6) Nip n’ Tuck- Kathy Lette

7) Musicophilia- Oliver Sacks ❤

8) To Kill A MockingBird- Harper Lee ❤

第一本是阿妮送的生日礼物。那年生日不久后开始医院生活，之后飞到澳洲工作，把这本书留在马来西亚。今年头回马度假时才看完了这本之前看到一半的绘本。是可爱的兔子与熊的故事，但更多的是阿妮的温暖和祝福。

三月读了很喜欢的non-fiction ie <Mistakes Were Made but not by me>，充分解释了self-justification的概念，于是人难以接受自己的失误，甚至会下意识改变回忆以便自己在自己心目中是自己想象中的人。

"False memories allow people to forgive themselves and justify their mistakes, but sometimes at a high price: an inability to take responsibility for their lives."

"Maturity means active, self-reflective struggle to accept the dissonance we feel about hopes we did not realise, opportunities we let slide by, mistakes we made, challenges we could not meet, all of which changed our lives in ways we could not anticipate."

最后作者说我们犯过的错误和过去不好的事情是和“我是谁”和“我想成为的人”分开的。坦然接受我们的过错是爱自己的形式。

五月和精神专科医生Dr J在一起看完病人之后向我推荐了<Musicophilia>和<To Kill a Mockingbird>。第一本书让我深入理解病人展现的musical auditory hallucination，是一本有趣的non-fiction。第二本是流传了很久的经典小说，却意外地好读。作者用小孩视角说故事，写故事的手法简单流畅，故事自然连接着发酵，越读越觉得这是很有价值的书。有人把它列为“死前必读”。

“Why do you reckon Boo Radley’s never run off?”

Dill sighed a long sigh and turned away from me.

“Maybe he doesn’t have anywhere to run off to . . .”